PHEW FINALLY, these took way too long but here’s some pride-inspired environments!!
I’m not super used to working with palettes this way but it was still fun to try. sorry if I missed yours– I tried to get as many as I could but I was def running low on ideas/energy towards the end
I’m sure we’re all guilty of stimming in a way that was physically harmful to ourselves. Picking at our skin, pulling our hair, biting our lips. A lot of harmful stims can be avoided with access to stim toys, because many of them are absent-minded. If you’ve got a tangle, your fingers will mess with that instead of picking at themselves. If you’ve got a chew necklace, you can gnaw on that instead of the side of your hand.
But those aren’t the harmful stims I want to talk about. I want to talk about violent stims.
Banging your head against a wall. Slapping yourself in the face. Pricking or even cutting yourself. Those stims.
They’re one of the primary things allistics use in their evidence of how scary and terrible autism is. And that makes a certain degree of sense, because violent stims are scary. But I don’t think I’ve ever seen allistics actually discussing the root of these and why they happen, instead of just how to hit us until we stop, and that’s a huge problem.
Here’s a story. Several weeks ago, in my terrible old job, I had to go to work while I was in the middle of a multiple-day burnout. I had already missed a day because of it and I couldn’t afford to miss another one. I got stuck with a headset with a microphone that was too hot and put all the noise from the room directly into my ears. My headphones were also broken, so I had to try and understand what people on the other line were saying through loud static on top of every other sound in the room. I made it about an hour before I started feeling like I was going to die. I could feel myself shutting down, which I could not afford to do at a job that required me to talk constantly. I couldn’t go home. So to keep from going catatonic during the pauses between calls, I stabbed myself in the arm with a mechanical pencil repeatedly. Not hard enough to break skin, but hard enough to leave little red marks in my skin for two days afterward.
I tried other stims. I went to work that day armed to the teeth. I brought my cube, my sequin band, a little jar of slime, a bottle of perfume, everything I had. I knew it would be bad. I was prepared for it to be bad. But in a situation that overwhelming, no harmless method I had was enough. Physical pain was the only thing keeping me responsive. It wasn’t for attention. It wasn’t to make a point. It was just the only thing that could stop my soul from rocket-launching out of my body.
I’m not defending violent stims. They’re bad and they shouldn’t happen. But according to what I’ve observed, they are almost always a “Dire Circumstances Last Resort” stim. They’re the autistic hail mary. They only rear their ugly heads in situations of extreme mental, emotional or physical overload. The best way to stop us from doing them is to not put us in those situations in the first place.
Alright so listen up girls and boys with bleeding nether regions:
Buy Always Infinity with Flexfoam. Buy nothing else. Buy Always Infinite with Flexfoam.
This sexy beast. There’s a bunch of versions. But so long as it says Infinity and Flexfoam, fucking GET IT.
So I’ve always been a fan of Always pads. Can’t stand tampons because of all the horror stories and in general, they’re uncomfortable. Always just seems to be the brand that’s always there so we always got it.
Every since Always released their Infinity brand, we’ve literally hated everything else. Even the regular versions of Always. Infinity is the way to go. It is the ONLY way to go.
Infinity is like the only way we can keep our damn bedsheets and clothes bloodless. The first night I got my period I woke up with my boxers just soaked. Completely soaked. Blood. Everywhere.
So I just pop into the bathroom and thus far we’ve only got regular Always pads. Put one on. It’s about as miserable as you’d expect. The pad shifts as you sit and move and when you change pads you’re probably changing underwear too because of the blood just seeping out the sides and getting everywhere.
But then we have Always Infinity. With the Flexfoam. You know that bullshit on the side of the box brands spew where they’re like THIS SUPER INGENIOUS INVENTION WITH A FANCY NAME IS GOING TO GIVE YOU PRISTINE CLEANLINESS AND ULTIMATE PROTECTION AND THATS WHY WE USE FLEXFOAM.
They’re not fucking kidding guys. This isn’t a fucking game. These pads are relentless. No blood gets by. You’d probably have to unhygenically use one pad 24 hours+ before the blood will actually leave the pad and get anywhere.
In addition to that? It’s invisible.
Okay look, guys. I’m trans. I’m a transman. I’m a fucking dude. I don’t suffer from dysphoria but nothing annoys and irritates me more than knowing I am wearing a fucking diaper because I can feel it everytime I move and stand and sit down.
Not these bitches. No fucking way. They’re thin, they’re super big and they’re completely inmovable. I don’t have to keep grabbing at my crotch or my ass to readjust the pad lest blood be splashing everywhere. It stays in one fucking place and it doesn’t leave until you rip it out yourself.
THIS SHIT IS SO NICE. GO GET YOURSELF SOME. PLEASE SAVE YOURSELVES. SAVE YOUR UNDERWEAR. SAVE YOUR QUILTS. SAVE YOUR BED. HERE’S SOME COUPONS.
Rebloggin’ by request of the moum
I can say the same. These things are the shit and its beautiful. Whoever figured it out how to make them I’d very much like to thank, and I’m pretty sure my underwear would too.
A long time ago I read that Always pads make ur hingy itch but this person seems to really like them so I guess that problem was fixed. The thing i read was at least a year ago, probably more.
HOLY SHIT YOU GUYS when I was in Toronto (one night in a nice hotel downtown and of course I got my fucking period) and the mini mart had these on sale so I took the risk and THESE ARE INCREDIBLE
THIN! No leaks! No blood down the ass crack! FLEX FOAM FOR LIFE!!
Always Infinity and Always Radiant are the same exact product. Both have the flex foam but Radiant just has a fragrance to it + more colorful packaging. When one is on sale, the other one generally isn’t so buy the one on sale! Also, once you finish, the boxes can have coupons on the inside so use those on your next purchase!
You had me at no blood down the ass crack.
I can confirm how lovely these are and i refuse to use anything else over these
These are incredible. I HATE pads. Hate them. I only started using them because endo made it impossible for me to use tampons. My periods were miserable when I had to switch.
Then I found flexfoam. My periods have completely changed. I can barely tell it’s there. No more diaper feeling. No more blood escaping. And seriously, my periods get really heavy at points and the foam absorbs it all.
THESE SHITS ARE MY FUCKING SAVIOR. YOU FORGET YOU’RE EVEN ON YOUR PERIOD, IT’S AMAZING LISTEN TO THIS POST.
👆🏾Literally Will Forget You’re r On Your Period They Are Super Comfy And Shit
I so second this for all the people who have periods
The Chaos Bitches 