talk about ally goals – The Chaos Bitches

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iridessence:

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iridessence:

iridessence:

Hello, world! I’m fat. I look good. That’s all, thank you.

Greetings, friends. If you are fat, you also look good. Okay, good bye.

Thin people, you are welcome to reblog this to let your fat friends know they are phenomenal

I am not fat, and I look good. My wife is fat and she is the most beautiful woman I’ve ever known.

P.S. Thank you OP for starting this excellent, positive thread. 10/10 would reblog again.

Mmkay cool but if you’re about uplifting your wife then why did you start off making it about your not fat self when virtually everything is already about that?

My apologies, I see your point and that’s my bad.

I’ve observed a trend in our culture that some people are fine with body positivity towards people who are fat, as long as they are in relationships with other people who are fat. But they treat the idea of a fat person in a relationship with a thin person as a joke, or think that the thin person must be ugly or that they could do better or something, and that idea is total bullshit.

My intention wasn’t to draw attention to my thin self (though I can totally understand how it came across that way, and I’m sincerely sorry for it.) My intention was to say that people of mixed body types can be happy and confident in how they look, and still be happy and confident together.

Damn dude, you know sometimes it doesn’t hurt to stand up for yourself once in a while.

Sure, but this isn’t one of those times. I’m a thin white dude who came in and accidentally derailed the message that @iridessence created this post for. Whether it was intentional or not, I believe an apology on my part is the appropriate response here.

Plus, she makes a valid point. There is absolutely no shortage of messages in our culture telling people who look like me that we’re valid and look good. So why water down the original message by mentioning myself at all? I was in the wrong, and I should own up to that.

The explanation I added in my second reblog isn’t there to justify my response. It’s meant as, “Hey, you’re right and I’m sorry. As part of my apology, I’d like to share a thought to show I’m sincere and see if we can both come out of this situation with something positive.”

I believe in standing up for myself when I’m the victim of injustice, but that’s NOT my position here. I’m part of the problem (whether intentional or not) and if I truly want to help be part of the solution, that starts with me taking responsibility when I screw up, learning from it, and encouraging others like me in positions of privilege to do likewise when they mess up too.

One last time, I want to apologize to @iridessence for hijacking this thread and shifting the focus on some random white skinny dude who doesn’t need any more attention than he already gets. I just wanted to make sure the folks reblogging from me understand that I don’t need them standing up for me here, because I’m not the one who matters in this thread.

You’re who matters in this thread. You and every other beautiful fat person who sees this thread. Thank you again for starting it. 10/10 would reblog again (but keep my mouth shut next time)